We fall in love so often. We date many people in our lifetime, but today I’m shifting the spotlight not to the people you date, but yourself.
In order to have lasting relationships, we have to be somewhat honest with ourselves. Many of us have yet to figure out our own personality, rhythm, charisma yet. To understand what we truly seek in our partners, we must, I mean MUST know what our own heart desires.
Here’s a few rules you need to remember.
- Use your head and heart. Head thinks, heart feels.
- Never blame the past relationships for any issues of doubts or trust you have. You can proceed however you like, but remember this is a completely different person, a brand new game. Nothing is ever the same. It is okay to be careful, but when you haven’t accepted your past yourself, you can’t move on expecting others to accept it too.
- Love requires work on both ends, it’s like a job and you can’t be independent and leave them out. Partnerships break up that way… sounds obvious, but not so obvious to a lot of people.
- NO ONE is going to do the digging for you, or do everything to keep you happy. Happiness with someone needs to happen naturally, not because he/she gives you something shiny or nice, or provides you with mind blasting sex. Because in time, that stuff will wear out.
- No love will change your life, however, it can evolve and supplement your life. Find someone that can challenge your beliefs, pushes you out of your comfort zone. Someone that can embellish and ornament your lovely life.
Do you think you have the understanding of yourself and accepted yourself, the good, the bads, flaws, strengths completely… to find that someone that can compliment you? Remember, opposites is not what we are looking for, we are looking for someone that is there every step of the way, supporting you the way you WANT to be.
Just be careful, the longer you don’t figure yourself out. The deeper the hole you dig yourself into. It will become a difficult task for anyone to find you down there.
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